It can be daunting when letting go of something you have always known. I believe in second chances in all things. Sometimes we have to give space for ourselves and others to grow. We must expand and open up to those areas that we love but fear. Disappointment of not going for it is far more limiting than failure for trying. I must ask though is it failure if you wanted the experience? For example, you ride a roller coaster and it is amazing, then you come down. Just because the ride is over doesn’t mean the choice was a mistake. It is in the missed chances that gets me.
The question then is ‘what do you really really want’? If you do not have it or aren’t living it then, ‘how can you change the context to achieve the outcome’. Do not complain about why you cannot achieve such things and how wronged you have been. This is a fools game. You only scar yourself with suffering. Yes there are constraints, but can such constraints be the force that drives creativity? Can you use your disadvantage to pull forth new advantage? Stop looking to the world to see what you are missing because someone else is admiring the life you dread. Take it back all those things you said that are not true about yourself.
Get up go out and stop making excuses, ‘it’s too cold, I am too tired, oh this oh that’. In the end who can you blame for an under loved life. We are to blame. I did it for years. One day I decided to go out there and make dreams my reality. ‘Damn’ was it blistering hard. Why? Because I had to face myself. All of me and my silly excuses. It was like being in a small room with this miserable complainer that would say, ‘no that won’t work because of this or that’. I wanted to shout at the girl in the room, ‘myself’ and say if you keep saying terrible things, well then that is what you will always get. You will be the only person to blame. So suck it up, shut up and only say good things so that you are good and good comes to you’. That is when life changed and joy began to blossom in my heart. No more excuses, no more missed chances. I plunged forward and took life by force, the real me stepped up to the plate and I left the former behind.